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Monday, April 20, 1987/The Battalion/Page 7 tudents experience problems ith long-distance relationships By Becky Weisenfels Reporter When students leave home for Ibllege, not everything can go with them. Often, much is left behind, heir parents. Their bedroom. But hardest thing to do may be leav- g that special person, j Many A&M students are involved in long-distance relationships that Wg eite'.rBpraie special problems. ofSMjj.1 Sophomore biological science ma- onitsiiii(, joi Sue Ellen Faver has been dating robvdeleT her boyfriend Billy long-distance for almost a year and a half. ■ “He thought I chose A&M over him,” Faver said. “He didn’t resent me He resented A&M. But I chose Iso we could have something in the future. He could have his career and Icould have mine.” I Faver did not come back to A&M by Jap®*I for the fall semester, but returned to thej^|;this spring. and al!i!)H“lt made a lot of difference when dorimpti |was there (in the fall),” she said. “I Has so dependent on him. My world rwasrtt^Hvolved around him. I thought 1 dthefoUu-Hashappy. 1 thought that was what I erbeaBiHanted. But 1 was really unhappy. condutttiHhen 1 resented him. 1 had given up Kverything 1 had always wanted and ■ -Ith,it would have hurt us in the long run." ■ Jeff Simpson, A&M assistant pro- ,Q Epsor of psychology, said few long- duster dig) ormerA|(!| ) rememlt; nd call ■|r ( In ISO, entsfeltii a s arm i I decidd ndencet; very yem tationefl i I fortrtii Muster: ltd lortl rommoul' rs at Gra is buirj irchPari: to 30 ge letter; tiveofe ildnhM II their profital sinessvi > said PttJ [Chain letters lake big hit in West Texas ODESSA (AP) — The chain etter is alive and well and appar- .intly thriving in the depressed Vest Texas oil patch. Print and copy shop owner lack Hampton says customers have been coming into* his shop rand asking him to reproduce main letters for them, hoping the lhains will free them of their Fi- inancial problems. I Hampton, who owns two PIP I'rinting shops in Odessa and one in Midland, says he won’t print (fhain letters, though it is legal for him to do so, because he feels Ihey defraud the people who par ticipate in them. “The people who bring them n are the victims,” Hampton $aid. The letters often purport to sell for about $5 the secret of get ting rich, and the secret turns out to be sending out a chain letter like the one that fooled them into sending money in the first place. Kyle Scarborough, manager of Justomer services for Odessa’s Wain Post Office, said all chain gfetters are illegal, even if they don’t ask for money. “The person who starts one of fihese is guilty of mail fraud,” he iid. And he said most people who participate lose their money. 011 7®: ik0 ! ? |y affetf sond®‘ [cy mpys df e $ p 10 i# tfiifiP 1 ^INYADS. BUT REAL HEAVYWEIGHTS WHEN RESULTS REALLY COUNT. o matter what you've go to say or sell, our Classi fieds can help you do the big job. 845-2611 distance relationships in the dating stages last. “What we have noticed is that dis tance definitely does not make the heart grow fonder,” he said. Freshman general studies major Ann Stooksberry agrees. Distance made a great difference in her relationship, she said. “It made a lot of difference be cause I was the one who was more devoted,” Stooksberry said. “We broke up because he cheated on me. If I had been there, he would not have cheated on me. He felt he could not go on without someone al ways there by his side. And I wasn’t there. “I was planning for a future to gether. I would have stayed with him (if the relationship wasn’t long-dis tance). We would have stayed to gether, I’m pretty sure.” Usually a man is more devoted than a woman in long-distance relationships, Simpson said. These relationships can work, but they de pend on how long the couple has dated, how close they are, and if they have any plans together. Sophomore general studies major Karen Charba dated junior Brian McDonnough long-distance for al most two years. He attended Texas A&I University before joining her here this semester. “Nothing really bothered me be cause I trusted her,” McDonnough said. “The only time I really got an gry was when I wanted to talk to her and I couldn’t get hold of her. I don’t believe in bed-hopping. I couldn’t do that. Knowing there was someone I really cared about, I couldn’t date someone else.” Simpson said, “Trust is an impor tant thing. Also the extent to which their future plans and goals involve each other. Another thing is if one of them has alternatives. If there is someone that person finds attrac tive, then that could be an omen. So those three things, plans, trust and lack of alternatives, are probably the most important.” Students who have dated long-dis tance said it also affected their grades. “I was constantly thinking about what he was doing, where he would be,” Charba said. “I worried more about him than about my studies.” Faver agreed, saying it was espe cially hard to try to study after a fight. Stooksberry said,. “At times I found I couldn’t study just because I was thinking about him. It hurt my grade point. If we wouldn’t have been dating, my mind would have been clear of that worry and I could concentrate on getting things done. I got things done, but since it wasn’t quality time, the assignments took more time.” The dating situation also affected the students’ social life. Stooksberry and Faver said they rarely went out socially. Charba and McDonnough said they each went out but always discussed it first. “If I ask, then it’s my way of asking Ts this OK with you?’ ” Charba said. “I didn’t want to jeop ardize the relationship. A lot of peo ple can’t handle asking. For us, it was just a mutual understanding thing.” McDonnough said, “The only time we ever went anywhere was when we asked each other. I’d rather spend a little extra time and energy on what I’ve got than to try and make something out of what I don’t have.” (if the relationship wasn’t long-dis- grades. have.” 2 A&M groups offer support to Adopt-a-School program By Aneela Cobb Committee Chairman Hazel Hoi- “When a ffroun adonts a schoc By Angela Cobb Reporter Adopting children and pets is common fare, but a new twist on adoption is the Adopt-a-School Pro gram. Businesses and other organiza tions can adopt a public school and support it on a one-time or ongoing basis by contributing time, creative skills or materials. Two Texas A&M organizations — Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity and Al pha Kappa Alpha sorority — partici pate in the program, contributing time each week to South Knoll El ementary School. Members work one-on-one for 30 minutes with students, tutoring and offering support. Teachers choose children who would benefit most from the program to participate. “They choose children whose families may not be able to spend a lot of time with them,” says Georgia Chiles, a counselor at South Knoll. “Many come from single-parent homes, and their parents work more than one job to support the family.” The Adopt-a-School Program in Bryan-College Station is sponsored by the Chamber of Commerce Edu cation Committee and was patterned after an Austin program begun in 1985. Committee Chairman Hazel Hol land says, “I feel it has accomplished nothing but good. The potential for support is fantastic, and our chil dren are our greatest resource.” “I feel it has accomplished nothing but good. The potential for support is fantastic, and our children are our greatest resour ce.” — Hazel Holland, chairman of the Chamber of Commerce education committee Of the 22 schools in the Bryan and College Station school districts, Holland says all but two or three have been adopted. The committee plans to recruit adopters this sum mer, she says, and hopes to have all the schools adopted by the next school year. The committee sends a needs as sessment list to the schools, which se lect the resources they need, Hol land says. The list is returned to the committee, which then looks for adopters. “When a group adopts a school, it doesn’t mean they are going to do everything for them,” Holland says. “It just means that they are made aware of the needs of the school and are able to help contribute. “Many adopters may not contrib ute one single dollar. Some busi nesses sponsor speakers to talk to students on topics of interest to them. Other businesses donate needed supplies to the schools.” Many schools have several adopt ers, as there is no limit to the num ber of adopters a school can have, Holland says. Chiles says the program at South Knoll Elementary is a positive expe rience for the children. “It’s been a real neat experience for them,” she says. “They enjoy it and are excited about their special friends.” Stephanie Sowell, a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, works with the children and says she believes it is a worthwhile program. “I really enjoy working and talk ing with the kids,” Sowell says. “Many of them come from deprived families, so it helps for them to have a good role model.” To adopt a school, groups should contact the Chamber of Commerce or an Adopt-a-School committee member. $tudent $pecials $-g 29 Roll & Coffee 69 French Toast Qt Coffee JL. • Two eggs, two bacon or sausage, two slices of toast $2 29 ALL-U-CAN-EAT BUFFET $2 99 Lunch Buffet $2 # 59 / uirthA&rl or blinn I.D. 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