THE BATTALION
Page 3A
nrst comes love, then comes
Students are advised to allow
relationships to mature before marriage
By Marianne Hudson
THE BATTALION
lie sparkling glow of diamond
gement rings illuminate junior-
senior-level classes. Questions of
to wear to the date party have
jived to what bridal gown to pur-
Amid the teary-eyed proposal
esand wedding plans, some
les panic, wondering
omparedtoihe Prsday, November 8, 2001
lies." I -
Oct. 29, IKE®
o remove Cun®,
dge. IKE !
Danner denis
ion wasanissif
has not beenrs
program: k
up to evens
-, a senior ajaj
lies major. Ti;
rush in the spra.
so unfair to drop
:ram since heL
now the organs
nbers.”
lingham alsoi;
J Universit;
by holding t
and buying alci
:e pledges,
y sat us (lie
own, handedsv
and said dnnli
rVe drank it in
unn ingham sad
icr denied the
an. but decl
w hether menihi
ed alcohol fc
He said he
ppeal with Staa
k.
understand i
ity is comingt
t believe some
are violationso
)anner said,
i Cunningham [': [
nt in Septemhei,
student orgai
g fratemitiei
o A&M rules th |
scrimination has
rientation
ingham said IKE
delayed his
as a pledge out:
ek Life Jui
a decision.
I then, they
s never actually re:
fraternity,” he
ingham expressc,
ion with Inn
cut of Student L
: discriminate''
le said th. : ■
it with an
of the haziigsW
ges, he
grievance
he Universiti ■
Ted as a ri
him and THE
s hoping this col
itit because I
fraternity
Cunninghi
graduation
if they will have a wedding day.
Many women dream of their wed
ding long before entering college.
Television shows like Lifetime’s “A
Wedding Story” reinforce their
desires for a glamorous engagement.
Gregg Matte, minister of
Breakaway Ministries, said people
focus too much on weddings and
engagements.
“They get starry-eyed on rings,
gowns and flowers, losing sight that
after the wedding, there is a mar
riage,” Matte said.
Couples may rush from courtship
to engagement to experience the
excitement of being engaged.
“Relationships have to grow, trust
has to grow, conversations have to
grow, compatibility has to grow,”
Matte said. “When [couples] try to do
“miracle grow,” it’s just not going to
be ready.”
Matte said that couples should ide
ally date for at least one year. By dat
ing a year, they can see each other in
every setting and emotion. He said it
is difficult to keep one’s best foot
forward for an entire year.
Matte also said college
is a wonderful opportu
nity to learn about
oneself.
“I was 27
before I got
married,”
he said. “That was a great age for me
to get married. I was able to walk into
a relationship more aware of who I
was and who I would be most com
patible with.”
To many, college represents free-
u
Relationships have to
grow, trust has to grow,
conversations have to grow,
compatibility has
to grow.
— Gregg Matte
minister of Breakaway Ministries
dom: freedom from parents, freedom
from the work force.
Brian Fowler, a senior sports man
agement major, said being in a rela
tionship limits one’s freedom.
“Once you get engaged and mar
ried, your life is not your own any
more,” Fowler said. “You have to
think of how your decisions will
affect another person.”
Fowler said that he hopes to visit
Ireland after graduation and said he
would not be able to do so if he
were engaged.
Jeana Petruzzo, a junior elemen
tary education major, said two people
should have a mutual agreement that
they both someday see themselves
getting married.
“It shouldn’t come as a com
plete shock to the girl when the
guy proposes,” Petruzzo said.
“However, I don’t think the girl
should know everything from the
date of the proposal to the cut of
the ring before it happens, that part
should be a surprise.”
People choose to step toward
engagement for various reasons and
there are different opinions on when
to get married, whether it’s during
college or after graduation.
“College is a season,” Matte said.
“When it ends, there is a tremendous
amount of change. Everything will be
new, and on top of that, having a new
marriage can either be the greatest
blessing because of security, or a real
challenge.”
i. Even'll
www. aplustutoring. i/i/s
Noon-
2PM
2-4
PM
to Texas 0
125 Yenrs
iLIO
tag the fall and s(>vi (
ty holidays and
0. POSTMASTER: Seed
: 77843-1111.
iveisityin the Division^
I McDonald Buildinf’*
http://www.thel)8ttw ,
nent by The BattaW
sing, call845-0569" !: .
through Friday. Fa#
dent to pick up a si#
per school year, $30*7
Visa, MasterCard, C s)!
4-6
PM
6-8
PM
8-10
PM
10-
MID
Math
142
math
141
Math
131
SUN
Nov 11
Phys 202
Old Exams
(Kennefic)
Chem 102
Ch.21
Chem 101
Ch.9
Biol 113
Lecture #3
Phys 218
Ch.10
Phys 208
Old Exam
8-10 PM
Lecture #5
MON
Nov 12
Chem 102
Old Exam
(Kenct)
Chem 101
Ch.10
Phys 218
Old Exam
Phys 208
Old Exam
TUES
Nov 13
3-5 PM
Biol 113
Lecture #4
5-8 PM
Chem 101
Ch.11
Chem 107
Old Exams
Phys 218
Old Exam
6-8 PM
Lecture #1
8-10 PM
Lecture #1
WED
Nov 14
3-5 PM
Chem102
Ch.21
5-8 PM
Chem 101
Ch.12
Chem 227
Ch.9
Phys 201
Ch.12
6-9 PM
Lecture #2
9-11 PM
Lecture #2
THUR
Nov 15
3-6 PM
Chem 102
Old Exam
(Murillo)
Chem 101
Old Exam
(Melon!)
Chem 101
Old Exam
(Conway)
Phys 201
Ch. 13,14
6-9 PM
Lecture #3
9-11 PM
Lecture #3
SAT
Nov 17
Phys 201
Ch.15
Chem 227
Ch.10,14
Can You Manage This?
Meet the Challenge with:
Master’s & Ph.D. Degrees
In Environmental Science and Management
—NEW
Ph.D. in Economics and Environmental Science
Donald Bren School of
Environmental Science & Management
University of California, Santa Barbara
Visit us at www.bren.ucsb.edu, or call toll free 866-4-UOBREN