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THE BATTALION Page 3A nrst comes love, then comes Students are advised to allow relationships to mature before marriage By Marianne Hudson THE BATTALION lie sparkling glow of diamond gement rings illuminate junior- senior-level classes. Questions of to wear to the date party have jived to what bridal gown to pur- Amid the teary-eyed proposal esand wedding plans, some les panic, wondering omparedtoihe Prsday, November 8, 2001 lies." I - Oct. 29, IKE® o remove Cun®, dge. IKE ! Danner denis ion wasanissif has not beenrs program: k up to evens -, a senior ajaj lies major. 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Television shows like Lifetime’s “A Wedding Story” reinforce their desires for a glamorous engagement. Gregg Matte, minister of Breakaway Ministries, said people focus too much on weddings and engagements. “They get starry-eyed on rings, gowns and flowers, losing sight that after the wedding, there is a mar riage,” Matte said. Couples may rush from courtship to engagement to experience the excitement of being engaged. “Relationships have to grow, trust has to grow, conversations have to grow, compatibility has to grow,” Matte said. “When [couples] try to do “miracle grow,” it’s just not going to be ready.” Matte said that couples should ide ally date for at least one year. By dat ing a year, they can see each other in every setting and emotion. He said it is difficult to keep one’s best foot forward for an entire year. Matte also said college is a wonderful opportu nity to learn about oneself. “I was 27 before I got married,” he said. “That was a great age for me to get married. I was able to walk into a relationship more aware of who I was and who I would be most com patible with.” To many, college represents free- u Relationships have to grow, trust has to grow, conversations have to grow, compatibility has to grow. — Gregg Matte minister of Breakaway Ministries dom: freedom from parents, freedom from the work force. Brian Fowler, a senior sports man agement major, said being in a rela tionship limits one’s freedom. “Once you get engaged and mar ried, your life is not your own any more,” Fowler said. “You have to think of how your decisions will affect another person.” Fowler said that he hopes to visit Ireland after graduation and said he would not be able to do so if he were engaged. Jeana Petruzzo, a junior elemen tary education major, said two people should have a mutual agreement that they both someday see themselves getting married. “It shouldn’t come as a com plete shock to the girl when the guy proposes,” Petruzzo said. “However, I don’t think the girl should know everything from the date of the proposal to the cut of the ring before it happens, that part should be a surprise.” People choose to step toward engagement for various reasons and there are different opinions on when to get married, whether it’s during college or after graduation. “College is a season,” Matte said. “When it ends, there is a tremendous amount of change. Everything will be new, and on top of that, having a new marriage can either be the greatest blessing because of security, or a real challenge.” i. Even'll www. aplustutoring. i/i/s Noon- 2PM 2-4 PM to Texas 0 125 Yenrs iLIO tag the fall and s(>vi ( ty holidays and 0. 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