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fillAiUthor says young career women find life lonely
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a CHICAGO — Young career
|fc«lVomcn are finding life lonely
'W'Vicl are turning to marriage
id children, author Megan
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ting” a women s liberation and
j usl||( xual liberation — with free
will to nourish a career instead
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n'Lhmg in a woman s life,
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e,” she said.
Fear of Intimacy.”
“Mother found out who she
was by getting married to a
man, taking his name and hav
ing his children,” Marshall said
in a telephone interview.
“But the daughters of those
women really felt that their
mothers were missing out on a
lot ... had no separate identities
from their families. They com
plained their mothers were ter
rible role models and very de
pressing to them.
“They really rejected the no
tion of love being important at
all. Suddenly what was impor
tant in life was developing a ca
reer, proving you could live by
yourself, support yourself and
be independent.”
When this new generation
reached their 30s, they found
themselves a little lonely and
wanting love, Marshall said.
One successful woman law
yer said: “I don’t want to make
‘partner’ and come home to an
empty house.”
“The women were getting
somewhat disillusioned from
their jobs and realizing their job
wasn’t everything,” the author
said.
Marshall’s book is based on
40 case studies of women, age
25-40, in Boston, New York
City, Washington D.C., Atlanta,
Chicago, Houston, Los Angeles
and San Francisco.
“There was a kind of epide
mic of fear of intimacy that was
holding women back,” she said.
They were afraid of losing
themselves, had nightmares of
being suffocated, and feelings
of claustrophobia.
They were willing to make
commitments to a career, but
ran away from men.
They had found an identity
in their work and proved they
could take care of themselves.
“They were afraid that new
self would just go away if they
got married,” she said.
They just assumed they could
get married and have children
when they wanted to. But
women in their 30s find a short
age of men, Marshall said, or
men who are marrying younger
or less professional women.
Marshall found men also
were getting tired of career
women.
“Often they were the ones
who really wanted deep and
committed relationships. And
they were frustrated with going
out with women who were more
willing to put Lime into a career
than a relationship.”
However, she thinks the
trend is reversing.
“They’re finding in their 30s
that they have really paid a dif
ferent price — that all this
worry about commitment and
fear of intimacy really has
shrunk their horizons in a way
that they never expected,” Mar
shall said.
“I think that it’s kind of sad
because in a lot of ways these
are the women who are best
prepared to have good mar
riages — if they would let them
selves.”
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SACRAMENTO, Calif. —
1|e - s hfiapist Sheila Sugarman has
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Ihat shcsiiB” 10 * 1 P er ™ sive I and , P er -
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Not all cases ol depression
^Belf-inflicled or can be self-
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igether “Walk, run, dance, jog, bow),
wim. Get physically tired doing
omething you enjoy each day,”
hebaid. “Of ten people who de-
iress themselves do not move
heir bodies. Exercising causes
m ov (T Jj? linternal chemical reaction
andlboB tends to temper depres-
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allege.
Finally, she said, try keeping
a daily journal of personal feel-
ings.
“It may not be real nice to
say, ‘I depress myself,’ but it’s
wonderful to know that, be
cause guess who can get you
out?”
Sugarman, 39, a licensed
family counselor who holds a
master’s degree from California
State University, Sacramento,
cautioned that there are differ
ent kinds of depression and not
all of them are induced by self
generated negative thinking.
Some are the fault of hormonal
changes, internal chemical im
balances or catastrophic occur
rences such as a death in the
family.
But other depressions can be
come habits that run in cycles
and last for years.
Some people harbor ideal
ized or “perfect” images of
themselves that they cannot live
up to, Sugarman recently told
an all-female class arranged by
Sacramento’s Learning Ex
change. When that happens,
she said, reactions can be disas
trous.
“If I’m not perfect, then I’m
despicable,” is the way some
people react, Sugarman said.
Failure to live up to impossibly
high standards can trigger a
devastating cycle of mental self
abuse.
“There is anxiety, because
they’re overwhelmed by sad
ness, anger, hatred and they’re
scared. They really feel bad.
They’re not making this up. So
they become people-pleasers
and seek reassurance from oth
ers because they know they’re
not OK. If they were OK, they’d
be able to handle this.
“When they don’t please ev
eryone, they go back into the cy
cle again. That’s probably how
it started in the first place, try
ing to please someone.
“Every time you evaluate
yourself harshly, you can jump
in the direction of depression.
You can make your life miser
able by feeling bad about your
self because you’re not doing
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et he smiles when he hears
iimself described as “up-and-
:oming.”
s he puts it: “They’re finally
opening their eyes to my direc
tion.”
Thomassen has designed
clothes professionally for 15
years, although his unofficial
career began in childhood when
he designed and made ward
robes for his sisters and their
dolls. s . ,
He studied at the Fashion
and Industrial Aft Schdof of
Design in Copenhagen, and in
the early 1970s established him
self as a designer of women’s
clothing.
Working for Birger Chris
tensen Furs in Copenhagen, he
designed a fur coat for Den
mark’s Queen Magrete II, as
well as numbering among his
private customers Marlene Di
etrich and Josephine Baker.
Thomassen came to the
United States in 1976 and set
up shop on the West Coast,
where he specialized in men’s
clothing. “It’s a bigger challenge
in America to cater to the
American man, to bring my Eu-
He
for
calls his designs
women “an expression, an ex
tension, of my men’s clothes,
but not unisex. I really cater to a
person who is all together.”
Thomassen moved from San
Francisco to New York last year
to integrate his European back
ground and training with his
concept of the American way of
life.
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Elect DAVID BARRON County Attorney.
•Bryan High School, graduate 1974
•Attended Sam Houston State and Texas
A&M University
•University of Texas School of Law
•Saint Mary’s University of San Antonio
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•Baylor School of Law (Juris Doctorate)
•Brazos County Democratic Executive
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• Democratic precinct chairman-Henderson
Elementary School Pet. 13
• Faculty, Blinn Junior College, 1983
Government Instructor
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• State Bar of Texas, member
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